7 viable methods to rise after the failure
Table of Contents
- Forgive yourself
- Learn from your failure story
- Accept what has happened
- Do not multitask; one thing at a time, please!
- Review what has happened
- Define plans for your goals
- Not every goal fits your situation, choose achievable ones
You have presumably failed in your life numerous times. If you are reading this, then chances are you have experienced the bitterness of rising after you hit rock bottom. Remaining positive after a devastating storm of failures has attacked you is maybe the toughest thing you are forced to do. Not only can’t you rise, but the storm gives birth to depression and hopelessness that can conquer your soul.
Despite the difficulties of standing on your feet in such a situation, you can change your sight and catch a glimpse of the disaster as an opportunity. When you reach rock bottom, the good news is that nothing is going to get any worse, hence making your life road one-way only. The only choice is now to go ahead. You can rebuild your whole-life package from scratch. That is the brilliant side of the story, regardless of the fact that your life has been collapsed recently.
Then, this is more or less like restarting from nothing. You are no longer worried about losing things, much like an infant who is just learning to take his/her first steps. Then what is more than obvious here is, you should not label yourself as “knocked down” after you hit rock bottom. There are ways you can rise up. You just need to know the ways.
For that reason, we are going to scrutinize the most viable scenarios to survive a thorough failure in life. Then, do not surrender, equip your sword while gripping your shield, and go for it using the methods below.
How to rise after the failure: the workable methods
1. Forgive yourself
When you fail at doing something, you blame yourself as the first person who is guilty of it. Maybe you are right and you are guilty, but you need to forgive yourself if you are going to find a way through. It is normal if you inadvertently tend to put the blame on yourself, but that is again “you” who is going to triumph over the failure. Then, as one of the very first things you need to do, you should forgive yourself once you are attempting for a recovery.
You are not the first person who has failed at doing that specific job. By failing at doing anything you can imagine, you are actually putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. Many have failed prior to you, and they have not died.
One of the most beneficial things you can do in such a disastrous situation is to read about how people love themselves, and how they forgive themselves despite the uncountable appalling things they do in their everyday life. Therefore, love yourself and accept the fact that no one is complete and flawless; you are adorable while being incomplete.
2. Learn from your failure story
Do not worry if you have failed at doing something; every failure gives birth to precious lessons you can take advantage of, in order not to repeat it. There is a famous saying you might have heard: a wise man is not stung from one snake’s den twice.
There is at least one lesson in the heart of every failure. After you survive the disaster and can breathe, allocate time to see what has resulted in your failure. Upon detecting it, try to put them in your blacklist. Be careful, you should not make one similar mistake twice.
Then, stop being afraid of failing. Embrace it if you want to learn from it. Keep in mind that people who do not try and do not fail can barely cope with the inevitable dilemmas; they will without a doubt encounter in their life.
3. Accept what has happened
You should not run away from the truth. This might be one of the primary things you should do after you reach rock bottom. Do not ignore, deny, or hide the dreadful event you have experienced. There are times in life when you cannot change what has happened, even if you try to express your best version ever.
It is absolutely okay to fail. You are neither the first nor the last person who fails in their life. Failures are making successes beautiful. Then, never try to ignore or hate them. Even the most successful people you know have failed countless times in their life. It is no big deal, accept what has happened and instead of grieving over it, take the time and think well about how to recover and rise.
4. Do not multitask; one thing at a time, please!
I know, most of your friends tend to stimulate you to rise quickly after the fall and show the whole world who the boss is there. Although they do this for the good of you, you should be cautious not to fall into this trap. This can be, on the contrary, the worst thing you can do in such a situation.
Few people have succeeded in altering everything at once, once they have tried to rise after a big failure. You are highly possible to start over so powerfully; however, you might sooner than later run out of steam in your way. Those who step forward slowly but constantly are capable of moving the gigantic stones ahead.
Long story short, you need to focus on one thing at a time and take small steps after the big breakdown in order to stand up. Taking small steps carefully guarantees the success of your next small steps. If you choose to restore all you have lost overnight, you are definitely going to fail all over again.
5. Review what has happened
You are right; maybe this is the toughest thing I can ask you to do. Reviewing the undesirable event you have just passed is not what comes to your mind first; however, despite the bitterness of this action, you should do it if you want to avoid it next time. This approach can teach you what has caused the issue, hence enabling you to plot the next method to achieve your goal in what you have failed recently. This can be called analyzing the failure.
By analyzing, you can find strategies you can use to revise what you have done wrong. You can detect your weak spots and improve them. The analyzing process will help you regain your self-confidence and rebuild what you have wrecked. Then, take this piece of advice and know the moments after the failures as precious moments you can take advantage of, to get a head start in your next powerful game.
6. Define plans for your goals
Setting a plan solely in your mind is not enough; you need to plan for it. Otherwise, it is more of a simple wish everyone may have than a plan. You can write what you are attempting to achieve on a piece of paper, determine distinct methods to do so, break it down into so many small steps, and many more useful approaches. After all, defining a plan for your goal can make that goal enter a real executing phase; otherwise, it would stay in the phase of never happening.
It does not matter what your goal is; whatever it is, you can write plans for it. For example, if you wish you could wake up earlier in the morning, you can first pick up a pen and jot down achievable smaller steps to do so; you can promise yourself to sleep earlier at night, forget your smartphone later than 10:00 pm every night, set a repeating alarm that goes off every morning at a specific time, etc. You can see that no matter how small a goal is, you can plan to achieve it the most effortless way possible.
7. Not every goal fits your situation, choose achievable ones
When you are driving on the road of success and there is no obstacle, it is normal to set big goals for your future. You can define a goal for yourself by which you will have a Ferrari in the future, or even better, a personal island. Just imagine it. No one is going to blame you on this, as long as you are streaking across the sky of success; but, what if you have just hit rock bottom?
You are not supposed to take huge steps in such a situation. When you hit rock bottom, you certainly need to define achievable goals for yourself. Doing so makes it simpler for you to stand on your feet after a hard fall. If you set achievable goals in such cases, not only are you going to heal after the failure faster, but you are also bound to completely avoid the likelihood of failing in that specific case again.
It is not the end of the world, failure, I mean. Before even embarking upon a project, you should keep in mind that failing is inevitable in life. You should expect it happening at any time while making your best efforts not to let it happen; nonetheless, it happens despite your efforts sometimes. If it does, what should you do? Is it wise to put your head down and sorrow over your failure? Absolutely not. Then what is the best piece of advice here?
You should rise, no matter how tough rising is. Read about it. There are innumerable methods to ease the process of standing up again. Above, you read just seven of them, though they have been handpicked as some of the most useful ones.
To recap the methods, you need to know that you should forgive yourself after the failure first. Then, review what has happened and try to learn things from it, hence making the disaster a horrible-yet-effective accident in your life. Furthermore, try to accept what has happened and instead of grieving over it, create a plan to achieve your goals. Also, beware of making your goals small, as taking big steps after hitting rock bottom might have appalling consequences you do not wish for.
What other methods do you know to rise after the failure?
As you have experienced different cases of failure in your life, you may also have a story to tell. People might rise after the failure using different methods, or their specific personal methods sometimes. The method you have experimented with might work well on a friend of you reading this article too.
Then, do not deprive the readers here of your precious experiences. Write them in the comments below, as sharing is caring.
About Sanan Sanani
Co-founder and CEO of Sanani Holding Ltd and Sterling Property Advisors.
Sanan Sanani is an entrepreneur, a savvy businessman and self-proclaimed workaholic who loves to stay busy and make clients happy.